Principles of Meeting

1. We listen to understand, not to respond.
   • We genuinely try to understand where another person’s opinion comes from instead of preparing to counter it.
2. We speak from our own experience, not against others.
   • We use “I-statements” – sharing what we feel, see, and need, rather than what “they” do wrong.
3. We respect everyone’s dignity.
   • We avoid offensive, derogatory, or labeling language. Every person is an equal participant in the dialogue.
4. We value disagreement.
   • Different views are not a threat but a resource. The goal is clarity and solutions, not victory.
5. We do not use emotional or psychological violence.
   • We avoid manipulation, intimidation, sarcasm, personal attacks, or humiliation. If someone feels unsafe, they may raise a hand and say: “I need respect.”
6. We speak one at a time and briefly.
   • Each person gets a turn; others listen. Recommended time: 2–3 minutes per speaker.
7. We look for ideas, not culprits.
   • We focus on resolving situations and looking forward, not on past mistakes.
8. Trust and confidentiality.
   • What is shared in the room stays in the room – especially personal experiences and feelings.